Whether you’re 18, 21, 30, or 50, there will probably come a time in your life when you decide to move out of home’ and go it alone in the big wide world. This article provides a guide on how to go about it without hassles.
Regardless of when it happens, or why, you’ll probably feel the same excitement and nerves in equal measure when you are moving out of your family house or a place you’ve called home for donkey years. That feeling of freedom and not being monitored happens naturally when you plan to move out of a home you’ve lived in for many years. There is also the emotional angle to it no matter how excited you get about leaving the house.
Here are some tips to help you fly out of the nest and not flee back again just as fast.
1. Consider your decision to move
There are many reasons to move out – maybe it’s your decision, maybe it is someone else’s, maybe it is necessity, maybe it is just time.
No matter why you’re moving on, think about it calmly. Are you ready to live independently? What are your options?
And if it is your decision, are you moving out for the right reasons? Don’t make a rash decision that could see you needing to move back home again soon, and make sure you consider all the avenues available to you.
2. Find the right place
Whether you’re buying, sharing or renting, you’ll need to work out what kind of property best suits you and your lifestyle.
Ask yourself some serious questions. Can you live alone or is a flat share the best option? Will you be happy in a shabby share house? Its even a hard choice if you are leaving a comfortable Mansion for a tenement building.
What can you actually afford, and where?
Leaving home is expensive, and it doesn’t take long for bad budgeting to lead to financial hardship, so you need to plan ahead.
Some people go without food and even borrow money to survive when they move out of their family homes. Avoid this situation by calculating your known monthly income then planning a monthly budget for food, bills, transport, entertainment and extras. Always pay any bills and rent on time to avoid embarrassment from your landlord.
No matter how much, or how little money you have, managing your money well is the best foundation to living independently and this will have flow on effects to all aspects of your life.
Moving out gives you independence, freedom and adventure, but it all comes with added responsibilities.
Without sounding like mum and dad, try to keep on top of the chores like cleaning, cooking, laundry, and taking the bins out. You don’t want to fall into the cliché of being a typical first time out of home slob!
Look after yourself: if you’re used to having meals cooked for you at home make sure you get into a rhythm of cooking yourself, rather than skipping meals or relying solely on eating out (that’ll eat into your budget too).
Communication is the key to any relationship and it is no different for your flatmates or partner (assuming you are not living alone). Good communication is a skill you should have imbibed before you move out of your family house.
Avoid conflict by setting ground rules, being open and respecting others’ opinions (including any opinions they have on the way you live)
Living independently for the first time you’ll face your share of surprises, including the challenges of living with others. It’s common for this to make people a bit nervous or unsettled. Remember you’re not alone, and work on expressing how you’re feeling to avoid misunderstandings.
6. Hide a spare key
There’s nothing worse than locking yourself out or having to break into your own house because you lost your key. And probably spoiling your lock because you locked your key in the house. That is why it is essential you keep a spare key to your house with someone you trust.
7. Keep in touch
No matter how old you are, if it’s your first time out of home your parents or guardians will probably miss you. Give them a call from time to time or go home for a meal! Just try not to land on the doorstep with the washing too often.
If you’re thinking about moving out, see if you can try it for a while to test your skills at budgeting and housework. Perhaps you could stay with a friend. Or get a short term rental for a few months.
Another idea is to get your parents or guardian to let you ‘run the house’ for a month or two, and be responsible for as much as you practically can.
This will give you a better idea of what’s involved, and may give them a chance to put their feet up.
If you don’t do your own washing, now’s the time to start. Make sure you can do all the things you’ll need to do when you step out.
9. Ask for help
Moving out for the first time can be daunting, and there’s a lot to get on top of. Don’t be too proud to ask for help if you find yourself under financial or emotional stress or if you have any other kind of trouble.
While your parents might be there for you, not everyone who moves out can move back home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. I’m sure there are other options you can explore.